I mentioned a few days ago my Blogging Goals, and wow, it’s amazing that if you actually set a goal, that early determination is like wildfire!
I feel like I’m constantly working on my mothering skills, to talk sweet to my children, to apologize when I’ve gotten upset, to practice patience when they don’t come when asked (twice), to engage with them, to look into their eyes when they are telling a story, to hug them often, to tell them I love them frequently, to build them up, have one on one time. Not that I am PERFECT, but these are personal goals I’ve had at the forefront of my mind for years. I feel I do them well for the most part. This year in my mothering, I’d like to be better at offering up better advice when they have frustrations, to be in tune enough to THEM to know how I best guide my conversations.
I’m their mom, I fix their frustrations–or at least I want to–but that’s not what I should be doing. I should be teaching them how to deal with them, and they best thing I can do is listen. To NOT offer advice or solutions unless they ask. But that’s not natural for me. My boys are 10 and 12 and very smart and aware of their surroundings. We encourage them to find solutions to their frustrations by consulting our Father in Heaven in prayer as well as turning to the scriptures for peace. Both concepts take practice, of which I myself have ebbed and flowed in the same realm throughout my life. I want them to recognize the promptings of the Holy Spirit that guides them, and to discern right from wrong. We teach them that the best way that Spirit can stay strong and guide them is to seek the scriptures and pray. I fear I may not be the best example to them, and I want to be better.
This year, a personal goal of mine is to seek the scriptures daily. I took a class in college where I exercised a 30 minute daily study, and it was AMAZING! I wrote in a journal the thoughts I had while reading, I was encouraged to pray before and after my reading to be more filled with light, and I was! I noticed a big difference in my demeanor, my patience with others, the peace within me. Ever since then, I’ve lived with this frustration that I just can’t do a 30 minute daily study, so it often ends up being a big fat ZERO minutes. I’ve fooled myself into believing that if I can’t “do it all” I’ll do nothing because it’s one or the other with nothing in the middle. I remind myself, “That’s not ok, Kristen, (to read nothing in the good Book) you can do just a little.” I get out of the habit and then it’ll go days…weeks…before I’ve immersed myself. It disappoints me, and I try again.
I’ve told myself that not only do I owe it to myself to have that extra light from a daily study of the scriptures, but I owe it to my children to have a mother filled with that extra light. I know and feel a difference in my patience, kindness, overall tolerance of life’s annoyances when I’ve had a daily study.
My goal this year is very simple: To read just ONE verse a day. Hopefully, it will lead into more verses on some days, and some it won’t. I’m going to be ok with that. Even though the little devil on my shoulder is telling me that just one verse is ridiculous, not hardly beneficial at all, I know he’s wrong. I know that just one little verse will give me a fraction of light above what ZERO verses would be.
My friends Kelli & Kristi at Lolly Jane, Mandy at Sugar Bee Crafts and Mariel and Or So She Says are also sharing their personal goals today. We plan to share our thoughts on the same theme the first Sunday of each month.
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