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Yesterday I was having a bit of a panic attack.

It seems to happen every once in a while. Not that I’ve had a history with that, (or been diagnosed) but sometimes when lots of things pile up at once, I feel it in my body, it starts to react, and tells me I need to slow down…take a breather…try to not let things get to me that I can’t control.

When I spent my birthday in Tennessee a few weeks ago, my husband, brother, sister in law, and kids made this awesome sign for me that listed 36 (my age) qualities they love about me. Two that stick out to me that relate to this topic are:

  • She can multi task like a symphony director. If there was an Olympic event for multi-tasking: Gold Medal, baby!
  • She has a high tolerance for choas.

It’s true! My life is chaotic (because of the mult-tasking, probably) and I love it! I thrive on it! But sometimes, those plates I juggle tend to come crashing down, and I get to a point that it becomes too much. Usually it’s just for one really bad day, then I can sleep it off and I’m fine. But it’s been a CRAZY past week, and yesterday (Wednesday) was the culmination of it all. I’ve cried, I’ve vented to my husband, I’ve tried being patient, I’ve prayed. I know things will get better, and I’m grateful that I have that perspective. I can just push through it, and I’ll come out ok, just like the last time.

I like to share what’s on my mind here on my site, because I feel like you care. Those of you that check in every day, or who get my daily newsletters, you care enough to be here. I don’t like to promote these posts on social media, because I just want the select few who care, to really know, to see what goes on behind the scenes.

I also want you all out there to know that I’m a real person, too. I’m not just capturing joy, I’m feeling sad sometimes, too. I think we all benefit from knowing that everyone out there struggles, and it helps us all feel a little better about our own personal demons.  It reminds us not to compare our bad days to someone else’s good days. Despite the crap I’ve dealt with, I still believe in looking for the joy in life, in focusing on the positive, because that’s all we can do to come through from a bad day, week, or month.  If we were all a little more open about our bad days, I think we’d find we can relate better to people each other, and be more sympathetic.  Behind every smile is a sad story, too.

Even typing this up, I’m getting all emotional. I tend to get emotional easily though. I also tend to be overly sensitive and let things affect me more than others. But I think the things that have been weighing me down would affect anyone. Just maybe not to the degree that I’ve had.  So here are my junk for the week:

  • Computer got a virus, and it’s taken a week of back and forth with a guy fixing it, and it’s still infected!
  • I write a weekly post for e-how, and I have a Tuesday night deadline each week, my computer was struggling so much, I couldn’t even upload a picture, and I didn’t get it in til Wednesday afternoon. It was so stressful that I appeared un-reliable (and unprofessional) and it happened last week, too.
  • my weight. oh, the dreaded scale. I’m the highest that I’ve been in 2 years, and I’m so disappointed with myself. Granted, I’ve kinda given up this summer, ate whatever I wanted on my road trip, and got out of the exercise routine with my foot (minor) surgery. It’s only 5 pounds over (I know, it sounds lame that I’m upset about it) but I just need to be persistent and get it back down.
  • I’m watching my 3 nephews this week. It’s always a challenge to have extra kids around that have a different set of family rules, just trying to be patient with that.
  • Got my feelings hurt by a friend, and still don’t feel a resolution.
  • Expected more from a few close friends in another situation, felt let down.

Those are my combined stressors, but really the friend issue is what weighs me down the most, and puts me over the edge. I care so much about my friends, and when I have conflict, it hurts my heart until it’s resolved. I’m not one of those types of people that can just let it go without talking, I have to talk it through to feel good about it, to be understood, and understand their perspective as well.  But not everyone feels that way, and that is difficult for me.  I’m also generally the one to bring it up because it sure beats ignoring each other! It’s not worth it to me to lose a friend over a conflict, and I’m usually the one to initiate that. But sometimes, when I’m the one that was hurt, I’d like the other party to initiate a resolution.  To care enough about me to initiate a possible awkward moment, because our friendship means something to them. When that doesn’t happen, it tells me that maybe they don’t care about our friendship as much as I do, and it stings…bad.

I was so worn down with all of this STUFF (and a really late night with no sleep from it) that I got flu like symptoms one night and had to tuck myself into bed at 9pm (thought it should have been 7). 9 o’clock is unheard of for me!

I’ve found what is hardest for me in any type of relationship is recognizing that we all handle things differently.  I’m hyper sensitive. Which takes me to another discussion in defining that word.

Sensitive–It’s a good trait, right? We always say we want a spouse or a friend to be sensitive to our needs, to be aware, to be conscious, to reach out, to protect.  The dictionary says, ” aware of and responsive to the feelings  of others.”

But being “overly” sensitive, that’s a bad connotation. It means too much emotion, too much caring. Often times, a cry baby.

As in many traits in life, we all aim to find that balance, the fine line somewhere in the middle of being un-caring and overly sensitive.

But I define myself as being quite sensitive, even, overly sensitive.

Some very sweet friends told me recently that because I’m such an ultra sensitive person in being aware of others needs, that it may also be to my detriment that I’m ultra sensitive on the flip side of taking things so heavily when I’m hurt by others.



 I’d never thought of it like that before, and it really got me thinking. Some can just brush it off, get over it, easily forget, but I carry it with me, shed tears, feel sick for days, and wallow in my own self pity.

Oh, that dreaded pity party! I hate it, I really do. I really don’t like myself when I dwell on the negative, when I’m surrounded by so much good! What’s my problem?!?

As adults, we tend to develop thicker skin as we age. It comes with life experience, where we are taught to toughen up. Is it because we grow up and realize some things just don’t matter?  Or is it because we’ve been hurt by others so many time that we have to harden our hearts in order to protect ourselves?

I don’t want to develop thick skin if it means I am less sensitive to the needs of others.

Maybe it’s worth it to me to take the brunt of the pain in my “over sensitive” category in order to still be in tune and care for others. I wish it didn’t have to be that way! I try to WILL myself to not care about those things…to get over it…but how can I teach myself such things? How do I train myself to not care so much, when I want to care in other ways?

I do feel that in my 30 something years, I’ve figured myself out more, been through the ringer in some areas, and changed my ways for the better. I am definitely not perfect, I’ve stuck my foot in my mouth a plenty, but I’m also quick to apologize because it hurts too much to stay that way.

Clearly, I still have much to learn.

I’ve also found when I’m not getting proper spiritual nourishment, that I’m beaten down more.

Instead of that spiritual enlightenment recently, I’ve gone a different route to escape my reality by watching episode after episode of Keeping up with the Kardashians! (don’t judge!) It’s kinda vulgar, but it’s bleeped out (though I know what they are saying) but it makes me LAUGH! That’s what I need, is a good laugh, and that’s hard to come by for me and television/movies.

But I need to lift myself up with good things that I know will help me feel better, and dive into things that will lift me up.

Despite all of that junk, here are my “looking on the bright side of things”:

  • My husband is a fabulous sounding board and support to me, hugs me when I cry, is a great listener
  • My kids are AMAZING! They’ve been so helpful with their cousins, and taking up for my slack when I’m stressed and need to just put myself in time out.
  • I’ve had 3 sets of friends take me out to dinner for my belated birthday. I’m so grateful for the kindness surrounding me.
  • I have a clunky laptop that I can do some computer stuff on, and I’ve had to transfer files over to it while the computer is on the fritz, but I can get stuff done that I need to (deadlines, etc.)
  • I’ve exercised three times this week, working on getting back down…

All of this typing is a just a release for me, and I don’t need any accolades, I just need you friends out there to know that my life isn’t always rosy, and I find solace in sharing my story if it helps others.  Now I’m going to quickly cover this up with another post, not look at it for a while, and hope this has resonated for someone out there. A little inspiration about your Happily Ever After, here.

So share something with me! What have you been beaten down by? Or what has pulled you out of a funk?


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  1. Although we’ve never met in person, I feel like I know you, and need to give you a big hug! I think we all have those days and times when things just aren’t as good as what we would like them to be. I am like you, I hold onto things, especially when it comes to an issue with a friend. Lately, I am upset by my weight (10 lbs up! heavier than I have ever been not pregnant) Also, I am having a very hard time with my youngest sister, and it’s tearing me up inside, even though I don’t see it bothering her in the least. It just seems like she has checked out from our side of the family while she bends over backwards for her husband’s side. I just don’t see how you can’t be close with both.

    Anyway, a wise friend once told me that we can’t change how people act, we can only change how we react to the people. I try very hard to remember that what I perceive may not be what’s in reality. I like to take long walks and push myself into hobbies to help get me back feeling normal. And a good date night always helps!

    (((HUGS))) to you, Kristen. Hang in there!

  2. sending a {{HUG}} your way!!!

  3. Thanks for keeping it real! So sorry you’re having a rough week! It’s always hard when there are conflicts with loved ones.

  4. Marissa King says:

    Love ya friend!

  5. I struggle with all of those things too. I hate conflict and very much want everyone to be happy. I’ve been reading through the Jesus Calling devotional book this year, and I love it. We (finally) got some comfy patio furniture this year (my mother’s day gift to myself), so I go sit out there every morning and read my devotional. It is wonderful. I’m also reading a book called Overextended by Lisa Harper, and I’ve learned some good stuff there too. One thing I have put into practice (nearly every day since reading it), is to take a deep breath, hold it for 5 seconds, and then blow it out slowly, all the while thinking about breathing in God’s peace and blowing out the anxiety. She has a bunch of other stuff to think about that goes along with the breathing, but just the breathing has helped me SO much. I get anxiety-induced chest pains when I get overwhelmed, and this (and simultaneously praying for the Lord to fill me with His peace), makes it go away. Just thought I’d share. 🙂

  6. I know how you feel. I’m getting myself down about things in my life too. I’m normally so on top of it but I feel like I am failing. I know things will get better, with prayer and fasting, but it is hard when you are fighting a fight within yourself. I need everyone to be at peace too, so I know what that is like. I know we don’t feel like things are ok at the moment, but I have faith and hope we will get through it 🙂

  7. Your not alone in what you are feeling. It’s easier to think we are Super Mom, Partner, Friend, Entrepreneur ect.. Than to acnowledge we are just human and entitled to have our moments to feel weak, scared and disappointed in our imperfections. We are reminded by those who love us that we are stronger in struggle than we ever give ourselves credit for. This too shall pass as does everything in our lives. Stay close to those who see you as Super Mom, Partner, Friend, Enterpreneur ect and know you are an inspiration and appreciated. Your honesty is your strength that will get you through this rough patch.

  8. This feels like the week of downers for many people. Several of my office teammates have family with severe health problems (me included – my dad’s leukemia is back in full force). It is hard to stay positive when you feel helpless, but Kristen your faith is very strong and this will all pass (as I know you know this). I, too, am sending cyber hugs your way. I love that you are strong and can share your feelings. I am praying for you. Kim in Round Rock

  9. I can totally relate to everything you have said. I’ve lost track of the number of times a comment or judgement from someone has had me loose sleep for days, even from someone I didn’t even like or worse still a stranger. Still I’m glad I am a sensative person and wouldn’t change that for anything. Because to feel deeply means you get so much more joy out of the special things in life. The really important things. I say to you, don’t toughen up your heart and don’t wish away your sensative soul… Afterall they are the reason why your family loves you so much. Sure a sensative person may experience a few bumps in the road but that’s just part of life. When speaking to yourself, ask yourself, what would I tell my daughter ? Would I tell her to toughen up and harden her soul? No way! You’d say she is so beautiful and not to change one bit. We should all remember to talk to ourselves with the same loving voice. Sending you hugs xx

  10. Oh, Kristen. I know I’m late reading this but I felt like I needed to comment. I think we may have lived parallel weeks across the country. I to struggle with feeling the sting of unreciprocated efforts in friendships, I dove head first off the healthy eating and exersizing wagon and now must deal with extra weight and the return of some bad habits, family stuff and etc…… I texted a friend of mine feeling sorry for myself and what she sent me was such an encouragement I thought I’d share it with you. “Remember that God has promised to work in you to will and to do according to His good pleasure. He is the only one that can fill the empty spaces with lasting joy and and unconditional love. He has chosen you to love and draw close to. Bask in His grace today.”
    Although these weeks later I’m sure your struggles have a different face than when you originally posted this, I’m praying they’ll be a comfort the next time you need it. 🙂

  11. Hi there Kristin – your pin caught my eye on Pinterest. I think you are was is known as Highly Sensitive ( I think you should look into it. I am an HSP – and it has helped me to cope with life just knowing some things about it. 🙂 Stay Positive! <3 Thanks for sharing!

  12. Thank you for this… I can Totally relate. Totally.